And Now For Something Completely Different: High Pass Challenge Reflections

I usually spend most of my time here writing about my midwifing and occasionally my parenting, relationships, and biking, but mostly in relation to my life as a midwife. Recently, I did a wild and crazy thing that I think probably deserves some reflection all on its own.

This winter I broke my elbow on my bike while commuting to work and it was probably the scariest, most painful thing I have ever experienced. I didn’t really know how I’d feel getting back on my bike and was unsure if I would ever want to ride again. I healed, slowly but surely, and have a large, angry red scar over my right elbow that will always remind me not to take icy corners too fast.

Coming into the spring I felt so grateful to have healed and to have use of my body in ways that I hadn’t for the past four months. I had been a pretty serious rider when I was in grad school and fell in love with the city and its surrounding hills and paths and waterways by bike. After I started my first full time midwife job I was spending long hours commuting by car and my long 30-60 mile weekend rides were becoming a distant memory. I’d still ride around town, out to meet friends, but my bike became more a method of conveyance instead of a tool for me to be an athlete.

Getting pregnant and staring down hyperemesis put an almost immediate stop to my bike riding for several months. Also, because of my aggressively framed racing bike I had to stop riding altogether around 24 weeks. After baby E’s birth I struggled to love my postpartum body and instead of feeling strong and healthy, I felt squishy and exhausted.

As a plan to help stave off some winter blues, my therapist encouraged me to get some good rain gear and commute through the winter for the first time. I’ve never been a fair-weather rider and am not scared to get soggy, but commuting through a cold, dark winter seemed daunting.

The day I fell was sunny and bright, but brutally cold. My legs were warmed up, I was about 2/3 of the way to work, and coming around a corner I felt my whole bike come out from under me. The next instant felt hot, searing pain radiate from my shoulder down. I heard my helmet crack against the pavement, instantly grateful I was wearing it.

The rest of that day remains incredibly sharp, but it’s the proceeding weeks following surgery, physical therapy, and near-endless boredom that are fuzzy for me. I didn’t think much about my bike during those months but the day my surgeon and I had our last post-op visit he asked if I’d gotten back on yet. It hadn’t occurred to me to do so, but that very next day I rode around town slowly and cautiously to run some errands.

Quick rides turned into commutes, then I really got a bee in my bonnet. I was so grateful to be healed, to have use of my body, and wanted to feel strong and fast again. I set a goal of riding a 47 mile route in June, and instead rode the 67 mile loop. It was a lot of climbing, and at the end I wished I had hopped on the Century (100 mile) loop instead. I started making plans to ride a century of my own this summer, and then found The High Pass Challenge.

The High Pass Challenge is a 104 mile out and back ride with roughly 7,500 feet of climbing that starts in Packwood, WA and heads up to the Mount St. Helens blast zone. It’s a rigorous ride, and I wasn’t sure I was physically capable of completing it.

The morning of the ride was cool and foggy. I woke up and stared out of the sunroof of my partner’s car we had camped in the night before. I was really going to do this, whether I felt ready or not.

I rushed to pack my jersey full of snacks, had a last minute worry that my tires weren’t full enough, and the start line bell blasted. We were off!

The first 15 miles were flat to slightly downhill. It was 7 a.m. on a Monday, so traffic was light and the fog gave us a nice cover to warm up our legs. I passed lots of farmland, and off to the east I watched as a giant heard of elk run in an undulating block. I rode briskly but not too fast. I didn’t know yet what was ahead of me, and I wanted to take in these easy, beautiful miles before the big climbs started.

After turning off the main highway, I hit some rolling hills and had my first climb of the day. It was short, about a mile and a half, but steep. Right after that climb, I returned to more rolling hills and felt like my pace was on track to land me at the peak at a pretty impressive time.

I rolled into the first stop, which is at 25 miles, feeling warmed up, strong, and like I was about to totally crush the rest of the course. I’d covered the first 25 miles by about 8:45, so a little under two hours of riding.

I took off from the first stop feeling happy and healthy and strong. I fell into a groove climbing and hit the first long uphill. I pedaled under the thick forested cover and weaved up and up and up the switchbacks. It was a steady climb, but the grade was shallow. I was working hard, but wasn’t exhausted by the climbing. I rode mostly by myself, passing and getting passed by the same folks a few times. We exchanged pleasantries but mostly kept our heads down, focused on the work in front of us.

Eleven miles of almost straight climbing took me about an hour and a half. By the time I reached the water stop at mile 36, I felt simultaneously so close to the end, and so far. I was still in relatively good spirits leaving the mile 36 aid station, but I wasn’t prepared for what I met on the other side. Four punishing miles of climbing at varying steep grades (between 5-8% grade) wore me down. Even more demoralizing was seeing every single mile marker as I was reminded of exactly how slow I was climbing. I started getting physically uncomfortable and at that point had a very difficult time getting out of my head.

I stopped at the mile four marker coming out of the station (roughly mile 40) and had a few minutes of panicked breathing. How much more climbing did I have? How much more could I take? Could I make it if the next 12 miles were like this?

I talked myself back on my bike, and was rewarded with having almost completed all of the major straight-up climbing. The rest of the 12 miles were still extremely steep, and I covered about 1500 more feet of climbing but at least it was rolling and there was some variation.

I came around a big turn and suddenly I was in the blast zone. All the trees were barren and I could see clear across the big canyons and up to Mount St. Helens. I had never seen it before, and it was amazing to think of all the damage that was done if the area still looked like the moon 40 years later.

I started seeing more riders come back down and many waved or encouraged me onward. I screamed past a sign on a big swooping downhill that showed me seven more miles to go. Seven. That’s like, one and a half commutes. Almost there, almost there.

As I came down the last hill, I powered up to the clock. “Bib 77 in at 5:19!”

I hopped off my bike and walked in little circles. I should have felt more relief, but the last twelve miles showed me that instead of 52 hard miles of climbing followed by 52 mile descent, I actually had about 65 hard miles of riding and about 20 downhill followed by rolling hills to the finish.

Because of this realization, I didn’t take much time at the top. I grabbed a snack, refilled my bottles and headed back out of the valley. My legs were tired and my neck ached. The blast zone was completely uncovered, so the heat started to get to me. By the time I turned the corner to head down a several-mile descent I couldn’t feel my legs burning anymore. All they felt like were achy logs, ceaselessly moving up and down.

I stopped at the first aide station 25 miles out from the start and started to come undone. I was so tired and I just wanted it to be over. I wanted to call it, hop in a car, and let my tired body have a break.

The last covered miles of forest were more rolling hills than I had remembered, which made me angry at myself for not paying more attention on the way in. I finally made it back out to the main highway and knew I had 15 miles of slightly uphill riding to do. Gone was the gentle fog, and now the sun was beating down and the highway was busy with logging trucks and RVs. My feet were so numb they hurt, and I had to stop several times to just shake some feeling back into them. I thought of my partner at the end of the race, knowing he’d be there waiting and so proud. Thinking of my support team and loving friends and family at home, I knew I had to keep going. Almost there, almost there, almost there became my mantra.

The finish snuck up on me, and all of a sudden I saw the big green tents. I pedaled down over the grass and drank it in. My body had worked so hard and it didn’t let me down. I looked around at the other tired cyclists and supporters. It felt surreal. It was simultaneously harder and just as hard as I thought it would be. My final finish time was about 4:40 p.m., just under the 10 hour cut off.

It’s been a week now since hopping off my bike at the end of those 104 miles and now I’m not sure what I’ll do next. At first I felt like, “I’m never doing a race like that ever again,” and then by mid-week started having dreams of riding up Snoqualmie Pass on the John Wayne trail, joining my local Rondeneuring group, and, of course, someday completing the historic Paris-Brest-Paris 1200 km race that is the pinnacle of racing for long-distance riders.

We’ll see what the rest of this summer and fall hold for my riding, but thanks for following along on my crazy journey and encouraging me and telling me I’m nuts, and telling me to get on my bike anyway.

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On Being a Bi/Queer Midwife

“When you become sexually active, do you think your partners will be men, women, or both?”

The shy teenager shrinks down in her chair a little farther, scared to make eye contact with me, but manages to squeak out, “I think….maybe….both”

A huge grin hits my face and I (at the total dismay of this teenager who would like to be doing literally anything else in the world) launch into my spiel about safer, pleasure-based sex with men, women, and people of all genders. It’s not 20 seconds until I’m drawing a diagram of how to make a dental dam out of a condom and my patient looks simultaneously horrified and intrigued.

I talk to so many people about how to have better sex every day, their identities, and some of the most intimate details that someone could know about a person and I feel so humbled and honored to be a part of my patients’ lives in that way.

I have written about so many parts of who I am as a midwife over the years, and, although I’m a little late for this to be a Pride-related blog entry, I figured it was high time for me to write about being a bi midwife.

Its difficult to be out at work, and as most bi folks know, no matter who our partners are, our identity tends to be erased. I wish I couldn’t recount the number of times I have had to tell people, “nope, still bi even though I’m married to dude!” And even though it’s difficult to explain to my co-workers, I still have a Pride flag that sits in my pen-holder and a big button that says “total Bi visibility” on my corkboard along with all my guidelines and resources I use on a daily basis.

But what about being out with my patients? I have always struggled for the best way to do this, without also divulging information that might make the visit seem like it’s about me or my identity. I know lots of bisexual, queer and gay providers struggle with this, and luckily over the years, most of us become known as “the queer NP” as word travels through the community that we are safe and competent and understanding health care providers.

One of the more visible things that is deeply a part of how I present my identity is that I don’t shave my armpits or my legs, and hope that this acts as a small signal to my queer patients that their health and identities are safe and respected in my hands. I try to use language like, “we,” when explaining concepts, like, “when we are dating men bacterial vaginosis isn’t considered a sexually transmitted infection and I wouldn’t treat you both, but when we’re dating women/vagina owners, I would treat you both.”

When taking a sexual history I always ask if my patients are sexually active with men, women, or both/all genders, even though there’s a check box on the history form. So many times the answer I receive after building rapport with someone and ask in a non-judgmental, kind way changes from what’s on the form. This was the case especially when I was seeing men at Planned Parenthood due to the increased shame around men having sex with other men.

In midwifery school our education about queer health was laughable. We had one lecture for our whole cohort essentially giving the basics of language and how not to be or act like a bigotted asshole to your patients. What we really needed was a whole course on how to talk about sexuality, pleasure and consent-focused sex, and the different health needs of men who have sex with men and women who have sex with women. Instead, I was left woefully underprepared for giving my patients the best sexual health education I could give when I entered practice.

As a queer midwife myself, who has so long felt like I don’t belong in the gay community because my partners have been (up until this point) primarily cis-men, I felt like I was failing my siblings by not knowing what I should. Luckily, my first job out of school was at Planned Parenthood where I got a crash course in just about everything I needed to know from increased risk factors to what everyone needed to be screened for and how often, Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis (PrEP) counseling and how to tell someone they have HIV.

Unfortunately, many folks view bi and queer people as the “most privileged” of the LGBT community because our sexualities are often hidden, but this actually makes us higher risk for things like depression, suicide and self-harm, drug and alcohol addiction. What that actually feels like is that we don’t belong in the gay or straight worlds, and both places tell us we don’t quite belong in either place.

I try to share as much of myself with my patients as possible (and professional!) insofar as it will help them with their journeys and struggles with depression, loss, parenting, and discovering and exploring their sexuality. It is my favorite thing in the world when I can hear a big exhale from a young queer patient when they know they don’t have to explain themselves to me. That I get it and I get them.

To all my queer, bi, and not quite straight friends, family, patients, coworkers, and fellow midwives, I see you and I know I am seen, and happy (belated) Pride to you all

 

 

 

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Our Bodies Our Doctors

A few weeks ago during the Seattle International Film Festival I had the absolute honor of seeing a film featuring some well-loved abortion docs that I know and deeply admire. Directed by Jan Haaken, the film follows four doctors in three different cities through their lives and work as parents, community members, partners, and abortion providers. Some of the doctors are OB/GYNs or family medicine physicians who travel to rural areas or cities across the South and Southwest. Some, like the physicians based in Seattle, do abortion work as their main day to day job and teach others to become abortion providers.

As the film unfolded, I saw an instrument prominently featured that I am learning to use for miscarriage management, and hopefully someday soon, for terminations: the MVA, or manual vacuum aspirator. It’s incredibly low tech and functions through a self-created vacuum. It essentially looks like a bulbous cylinder with a straw on the end.

Not only did the film feature this beautifully simple device, but it actually showed women having abortions. As someone who has seen hundreds of abortions performed I was struck at how much of my normal life was being seen by most people in the audience for the first time. Two of the docs, Sarah Prager and Deb Oyer, our two hometown heroes, talked about how small and relatively isolated the abortion provider world is. As I excitedly leaned over to my partner to tell them that the MVAs they were using in the procedure rooms were what I am learning to use I felt so strongly like my world was being seen and understood by a much broader layer of people.

The deep empathy and compassion that the abortion providers, nurses and clinic staff  showcased the world that I found my bearing in as a new midwife. There are lots of reassuring touches, hugs, and warmth. It transported me back to my first few weeks as a new grad midwife at Planned Parenthood. I was working out in a small clinic in Bremerton and did a now-seemingly insane combination of a bike/hour long ferry/bike commute to the clinic in whatever weather the Northwest winter would through at me.

I shadowed our medical director, Laurel, while she performed abortions. I wasn’t sure what to expect, but abortion care certainly didn’t look like what I thought it would. Laurel was confident, soft-spoken, sure, carefully and effortlessly moving back and forth between chatting about kids’ soccer schedules and what time the patient had to be at work the next day to letting her know what she might feel next.

Laurel didn’t shy away from being fully present with the folks who were struggling, always calmly and empathetically listening and nodding. I saw her ease and seriousness, occasionally mixed with little anecdotes and jokes and saw the kind of provider I hoped to someday be; the kind of provider I hope I’ve become.

The film also takes on an issue that I came far too familiar with as a midwife working at a Catholic Hospital. In Washington state, nearly half of hospital beds are in facilities with a religious affiliation, and not a small number of times I found my hands tied with what I could or couldn’t do for a patient because of the presence of a fetal heartbeat. Cienna Madrid wrote this excellent long-form piece about the creep of Catholic hospitals into Washington’s health care matrix in 2013 that’s always worth going back to.

While it was invigorating to be in a packed-out theater surrounded by friends, fellow abortion and reproductive health providers and abortion rights activists, I couldn’t ignore my nagging feeling that the film was leaving out the people who provide, numbers-wise, the majority of abortions in this country: nurse practitioners and nurse-midwives. The film was overall physician-centric, and didn’t acknowledge at all the huge role that we as advanced practice clinicians take in abortion care and advocacy.

I hate to complain too much about one of the only films in existence that showcase some true abortion heroes and advocates, especially because the Seattle-based physicians featured in the film are the ones helping me to expand my own skills so I can be a part of training other ARNPs to use manual vacuum aspirators.

It feels so fulfilling to see a film portray mostly women physicians as specialists in abortion care as the gentle, beautiful humans that I have come to know and look up to as mentors. There is a fear among older abortion providers, many of whom began providing abortion care in the years immediately after the passage of Roe v. Wade that there will be fewer and fewer providers choosing to become abortionists. This film shows dozens of eager med students involved in the national organization Med Students for Choice hanging on Sarah and Deb’s every word, and while most of them won’t become abortion providers, they’ll at least have the empathy to know who to refer to, and how to talk to their patients about their abortions.

For more information on the film, trailers, and more about the abortion docs featured in the film check out: https://ourbodiesourdoctors.com/

 

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Day of the Midwife

Today is International Day of the Midwife, and after a truly trying week I started reflecting on what this day means for me and my colleagues.

Much of the work we do as midwives is completely invisible and this international celebration of midwives brings to light who we are and what we do. It makes me feel connected to the long and beautiful history of all people who have helped women and pregnant people bring forth new life, acted as confidants and advisers as the wise women of their communities.

“We’re going back to the OR. Now.” I hear my voice get slow. Calmer and calmer as my heart starts to race. I’m not allowed to show my distress, not until later when I can have a few solitary moments of nausea, retroactive fear and the grounding ritual of slipping my wedding band back on after tearing off my face mask and surgical cap. I stare down at my booties, splattered in blood, amniotic fluid, and God knows what else. I hate nights like these, I think to myself.

Unfortunately on this night, I don’t have the luxury of wallowing in my occasional regret of choosing a profession with the infrequent instances of terror that punctuate my shifts. I move on to the next crisis, quickly scrubbing some blood off my shoe and hurtle down the half-way lit hallway.

We midwives are often the first to see women through crisis worldwide. We were sorely needed in the immediate aftermath of Hurricane Katrina. We are being called to the U.S.-Mexico border to help care for women and babies in one of the greatest refugee crises North America has seen. We’re on the shores of the Mediterranean ushering new life into the world amidst such turmoil and political upheaval and pain.

I burst into the room, parents terrified, nurses moving in every direction as I thrust my clammy hands into gloves. The slow dum-dum of a distressed baby’s heartbeat slowly returning to normal prompts me to let out a breath I didn’t know I was holding. There are tears, long discussions about risks and benefits. Everyone stumbling over words. It’s 4 a.m.

By the time I return to my call room to lay down for a few minutes and collect my thoughts before starting to write down the last several hours of the care I have provided the sky has turned the grey, dusky, pre-dawn glow that midwives everywhere know so well.

Lots of posts today about International Day of the Midwife are optimistic, warm, glowey and proud. I am all of those things, but as I also stare down the growing crisis of maternal mortality in my own country and the almost complete lack of progress in reducing maternal mortality world-wide I am ashamed to admit that I feel helpless and rootless. The vast majority of maternal deaths are completely preventable but because women everywhere are valued so little, and midwives valued so little along with them we’re barely scratching the surface of what can and needs to be done.

I try to bring to light the more invisible work of midwives everywhere. We catch babies, yes, but at least for me, that’s probably the smallest part of what I do. We’re primary care providers, abortionists, and experts in family planning and birth control. We’re experts in sex and sexuality, helping women and people through all the transitions of life: menarche, parenthood, menopause, and increasingly, midwives are branching out into death work.

So, dear midwife siblings, know that while the romantic notion of what we do is mostly being celebrated today, your darkest times, your hardest times are seen and known.

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The Grief Midwife

When I was a student midwife I always wondered what kind of midwife I would be.

Would I be one that takes a special interest in breastfeeding medicine and become a lactation consultant? Would I conduct research and go into academia? Would I be a bright, shiny midwife who cares for low-risk women who want no intervention and lotus births?

Five years into practice I have found my home as a grief midwife. In my first two years of practice I saw more heartache than many midwives do over the course of their careers. Part of it was me working with high-risk women, both socially and medically that lead to me seeing what most midwives don’t, but a big part of it was bad luck. I always seemed to be the midwife with the most miscarriages at New OB visits. Always on call with the family experiencing a stillbirth. The unlucky midwife who had seen too many codes.

This scarred me for a long time. Lead me to want to pull out of birth, out of creating deep bonds with women and families so that I wouldn’t get so hurt if things went awry.

I’ve dealt with my own grief. Grief so big when I was so young that it changed me. I let my grief as a new midwife overwhelm me and pull me apart. That grief coincided with my own journey with perinatal and postpartum depression leaving me barely able to take care of my own mental health let alone deal with the situational traumas I was witnessing in a healthy way.

Now, five years into practice, I have found my niche in caring for the grieving; for that too is a transition that needs midwifing as well. I am building a practice that allows me to specialize in caring for those experiencing miscarriage, depression, loss. I have supportive colleagues who are teaching me and learning with me as we break into new territory on what midwives can do.

I’m a sympathetic crier. Always have been. I used to think the empathy that overflowed from my heart was a weakness in my ability to care for those grieving, but the longer I do it, I realize it is a strength. So much of loss around pregnancy is so medicalized–made clinical and sterile. Miscarriage is the opposite of sterile. It is messy, both physically and emotionally. It is painful. It is raw. And sometimes all you need is someone to be really there with you, raw and vulnerable and sit with the fact that the bottom just fell out of the world.

I started my certificate in perinatal mental health today and our instructor warned us before starting the lecture that we were diving right in and that we’d be dealing with some hard stuff. The first slide loaded on the screen declaring that suicide is the third most common cause of death for women in the year following birth. We talked about misdiagnoses, dismissal by well-meaning primary care providers, and postpartum psychosis.

My mind immediately jumped back to an oddly quiet exam room. A patient insisting to me that if she went outside with the baby the shadows would follow her outside and she wasn’t sure if it was safer to stay or go, to disappear into the night. I desperately called our local perinatal psych unit asking to speak to a psychiatrist, any psychiatrist so that I could make sure my patient could get some help.

“Any other questions?” she asked me as my still-shaking hand had written down all of her advice and medications to send my patient home with.

I paused, not sure how to ask the terrifying question rolling around in my head.

“How do I know she’s not going to hurt herself or the baby before she can see you?”

A big sigh on the other end of the line.

“You can’t. You can just do this, and get her to follow up. I know it’s scary. But you did good. You caught it.” I set the phone down oh so gently on the receiver.

Diving into the dark and twisty world of midwifery isn’t for everyone. Hell, most people in their right minds run from it and try to remember that the darkness is weighed out in more than equal measure of joy and dreamy newborn lips. Just like we need experts in normal birth and joy and prevention we need midwives who are experts in loss. Experts in prescribing the big scary psych meds. Experts in walking through the dark valley, not leading, but being true midwives. Just walking along side. A witness. Just being with and among the grief.

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Back into the World of Birth

“That’s the way, all the way down. Down and through”

The words flowed out of my mouth naturally, fluidly, like it hadn’t been a year and change since I last said those words to a woman about to meet her baby. The thump-thump, thump-thump of the fetal heart monitor played mindlessly in the background; a familiar, joyful sound track. It almost felt like I had never hit pause on the baby catching part of my midwifery practice.

But some things were off. I struggled to get my gloves on quickly, my hands sweaty. The nurses hesitant, wary of this new unknown midwife. I sorely longed for the familiar smiles, my comrades in birth who could read my mind and my face. Who I trusted implicitly in the scariest parts of the night.

Today, right after I gave a woman medications to help soften her cervix prior to terminating a pregnancy she asked me what I like about my job working in an abortion clinic. I paused a moment. Patients don’t often ask me this question in the abortion world.

“I’m a midwife,” I replied. In my mind, that answer was self-explanatory. “I love guiding people through transitions. Abortion. Birth. Miscarriage. Menopause.”

I was looking at a picture of myself five years ago today. My wild, waist length wavy hair flaps in the breeze at Deception Pass on a spontaneous day trip. I was different in every part of my being. Half way through my final year of midwifery school, living in an apartment so small the two foot table we used for dinner had to be folded up during the day, broke and falling deeply in love with an equally broke, adventurous bike-riding Northwest man. I squirmed in my own skin the way early twenty-something women do when they’re always the youngest person in the room.

I look around my home now. My ketubah, a contract signed on my wedding day with my husband (the bike-riding Northwest man) hangs on our walls among family photos. A small table and a tiny chair sit pushed up against the wall with a little vase full of vibrant violet flowers picked by my son’s joyously chubby fingers. Board books and fairy tales have infiltrated my bookshelves previously packed with Marxist and feminist literature. I speak up firmly and confidently. I have the answers and this time I know I’m right. My body looks different; it has made the transition from maiden to mother.

So many of the changes we experience in life are gradual, each day changes us in small ways, so much so that at the end of five years I look back at that picture of the dreamy-eyed student midwife and I hardly recognize myself. But our lives also follow a bit of Darwin’s theory of punctuated equilibrium. The things that really change us, that force us to adapt, are often sudden and stark. There is a before and an after, and we are left to make up the difference.

A squalling, brilliantly pink babe emerged just moments after my encouraging words above. The flood of hormones and adrenaline protecting this new mother’s brain from the full comprehension of how drastically her life has now changed. Not all moments us midwives live for are these heart-stopping, dramatic changes–we love all the little transitions, too. Ushering someone through a first pelvic exam. Their first birth control method. Starting to try to get pregnant. Discovering their sexuality and coming out for the first time. We love it all: the molasses-slow changes that happen year to year and the giant, flashbulb-memory type changes.

I left birth because I needed my transition into motherhood to be the focus, not helping others through this one particular transition. As I pulled home from the hospital that night, I heard my key click in the lock and could already hear the cries of, “Mama!” from behind the door and I went through my daily transition from midwife to mama.

 

 

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Charting

I stare at my blinking curser, long after my last patient has gone home. I can see the long line of cars on the highway from my office window, their red tail lights like a swarm of angry insects. Everyone is on their way home. Everyone but the midwives.

I have spent my day counseling, asking delicate questions, touching people as gently as I know how, joyfully listening to baby heartbeats or delivering unexpected news. And now I have to write it all down.

If you had asked me to describe to you what my life as a midwife would look like before my training, I doubt I would have told you that roughly half my time would be spent sitting at a computer, fighting technology, and clicking buttons in a charting system. So many buttons.

Some days I am able to keep up with my charting and right after the visit am able to put my thoughts to “paper” and can swiftly move on to the next person. This has become a distant notion from the days when I was still building my practice. Now, I routinely see 15, 17, 19 patients in an eight hour day, many with complex gynecologic issues. It has also been made all the more impossible by having a delightful, but extremely time consuming, midwifery student this quarter.

Having a green midwifery student this quarter has forced me to slow down my usual rapid-fire pace of reviewing histories, asking questions, and conducting full exams in the blink of an eye. It has also forced me to take a hard look at all the things I do, say, and write about my patients.

The medical record has long been a sacred document that not only allows us to write down our observations about the people we care for, but allows us to show our thinking process and engage in the applied science of nursing. Every nurse also knows the old adage that if it isn’t charted, it didn’t happen. Charting serves as a way to communicate to ourselves for the next time we see the patient and show progress, or lack thereof, in treating a health issue. It also allows us to communicate with each other about our plans and a person’s overall health. It is also extremely time consuming and tedious.

As a teenager I sat on a cold table, the paper beneath me crinkling with every movement. I think of all the words I have seen in other patients’ charts. Psychosomatic. Dramatic. Non-compliant. Argumentative. Drug-seeking. Many of these words lie in my own chart from over a decade ago. I saw neurologists, endocrinologists, internists, chiropractors, psychiatrists, acupuncturists, and finally a rheumatologist, before a diagnosis explaining the cause of my chronic pain finally came.

These words riddle the charts of women. These words undermine patients and their stories before they even walk in to see a new provider. It is easy to write, “patient refuses. Patient will not. Patient defensive.” This style of charting exposes the deep power imbalances and systemic sexism and racism that are rampant in healthcare.

The words we chose in our charting matters in how we think about the care we provide and the provider/patient relationship. I tap away of my keys madly while my midwifery student watches every word appear upon the screen. “Patient states…” appears. And slowly I hit the delete button. “Sharon says…” This simple act of writing down names in our charting rehumanizes the people we see day in and day out under a deeply dehumanizing healthcare system.

It is easy to lose track of this deeply human aspect of healthcare, tucked behind our computers, typing away on a screen. For this reason I refuse to do my charting in the room. This flies in the face of what every single administrator has told me since I have been in practice. It’s more efficient, they all say. Put your lab orders and tests in right there, as you talk! Type out the patient’s history as you chat.  I have so many buttons to push and i’s to dot and t’s to cross in order for my charting to meet both billing guidelines and nationally mandated “meaningful use” measures that I cannot safely and competently conduct a visit while doing all these things. In order for most of us to keep up with our busy schedules and run relatively on time in our day and not leave an hour (or more) of paperwork at the end of our day, many of us do chart in the room. But I think a certain part of the intimacy of providing health care disappears with their use in the room. 

As I teach a budding midwife all the aspects of midwifery, not just what happens inside an exam room, but outside of it, has me recommitted to infusing my charting with the feminist principles that I hold so dear. How hard is it really, to write down a name? To explain that a patient declines with informed consent? The patients we care for bare their souls to us, terrified of judgement, and we owe it to them to be respectful and kind in our retelling of their stories. 

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